Stop Chasing Perfection – You Will Get Nowhere

Make Life Easier on Yourself by Accepting Good Enough.

I am my own harshest critic. I must be in control of every aspect of my life. At work, I have to be the best employee. As far as looks are concerned, I must have the ideal figure – a narrow waist, flat belly, and absolutely no ‘jiggly’ parts. In terms of style, everything has to be branded down to my socks. These all sound like too good to be true, right? Well, that’s because they are. In fact, some of them are nearly impossible to accomplish.

It took a lot of thinking for me to fully accept that chasing perfection isn’t a good idea. It’s true that no one can be perfect in every aspect of his or her life. My teenage years weren’t the best mainly because I was secretly obsessed with being perfect. I spent a lot of time looking in the mirror staring at every single flaw I had. In my mind, I was a fat and dark ‘worthless’ human who can never be good enough.

The Twenties were no different.  Every day, I hated what I saw in the mirror. I never wanted to interact with people and there was always an excuse: I’m too busy working! Mean comments about my skin tone and weight lead me into a spiral of negative thoughts. These negative words were constantly on a loop in my head driving me crazy.

Perfectly imperfect at 33!

Things started changing the day I turned 30. I realized spending time with loved ones is so much more beneficial than dwelling over negative, mean comments that are worthless. There’s much more to life than obsessing over relationships, the number on the weight scale or the shade of your foundation. I decided to enjoy time with my family and friends. Well, there’s no gap between my thighs and I still have belly rolls. My butts jiggle when I walk or run. I know I’m not perfect,and that is okay.

So what really matters?

Forget the weighing scale and the reflection you see in the mirror. Don’t beat yourself up for not having the ideal body proportions or skin tone. Accept who you are. Do whatever makes you happy. Nobody is perfect and that is just how it is. Love yourself because you are worth it.

Is Crying a Good Thing?

Crying is a healthy response to sadness and frustration.

When you cry, you’re meeting your emotions head-on. You are looking at them directly, allowing them to overwhelm you for a time, and then letting them go after your crying has run its course. Crying does not mean that you can’t handle your life—on the contrary, it indicates a deeper capability for handling life, because you’re not prone to counterproductive escapism.

Instead, you hold your ground and experience your true responses to life situations, regardless of whether they’re painful. And if holding your ground in this way does involve crying, you know that this is letting your body get rid of excess negative energy and making room for rejuvenating. This approach is nothing to feel ashamed of or to apologize for.

Credits: The Law of Attraction.

#nonegativity #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #emotions #youarestrong #positivemindset #midweekmotivation #youarestrong #positivevibesonly💯 #itsokaynottobeokay #itsokaytocry

I Know When To Draw The Line

It’s okay to live a life others don’t understand.

Society’s views are finally changing, little by little. The world has recently started to understand the true strength of women. Yet, so many of us feel powerless. Or we don’t get the power we deserve.

We (women) sometimes put ourselves through unnecessary suffering when we have unreasonable ‘personal’ expectations. Forget others, we constantly keep ourselves under a microscope.

Like many little girls, I was bombarded with a long list of expectations. For years I believed that girls have to be nice, they must be gracious. Oh, and can we help you with anything else?
All I heard was “boys will be boys and men will be men.” But girls? What about women?

Because I’m a woman, people expect me to always be accommodating. I am supposed to behave nicely, and always go out of my way to please others. More importantly, I always have to say yes even when I don’t want to because a woman is one who’s always fitting her schedule. No, our priorities and ambitions don’t matter.

The funny bit is that people don’t expect you to have a voice or complain about something. I can’t have limits and I can’t say when I’ve had enough. They don’t think you’re capable of setting boundaries. I must behave like a puppet and always nod and agree with everything this society says.

And the worst part, putting yourself first is a crime. You’ll be called selfish, mean and that’s just so out of a good woman’s character because she puts herself last. Even if I’m broken on the inside, I should smile from ear to ear. Yes, I’m not allowed to ever change that.

It’s like everyone can set boundaries except women. Why do we always have to forgive, forget and move on? Why can’t I call people out or cut toxic people from my life? Why should I always give someone a second chance when I am fully capable of standing up for myself?

It’s sad that our society expects women to always be the bigger person, the nicest person, the forgiving person, the person who’d gladly become a doormat. Unfortunately for some, that’s about to change soon.

Yes, there was a time when I desperately wanted to fit in with the wrong crowd, fulfill someone’s ridiculous expectations which resulted in me becoming something that was not me at all.

Now, I know my worth. More importantly, I know the best time to be nice and when it is the right time to draw the line.

Image credits: Positive Inspirational Quotes – Instagram.

This Is Why You Only Need To Live For Yourself And No One Else

In this day and age, where social media has taken over the world, it’s almost natural for most people to feel the need to conform. To follow the same path of life as your colleagues. To like the same things they do. To think the way everybody tells you to think.

I have fallen victim to this myself, I must admit. And I did it without even knowing. Subconsciously, I started adjusting my life to the norm, even though there’s no such thing.
I have sadly learned the hard way that if you don’t take a step back and live solely for yourself right now, then you might not get the chance to. I love to help people and make others happy but I have finally realized that I am in a season of life that should be solely about myself.

We all have a different set of values. We all want different things. We all look different. Therefore, there’s no way for us to follow the same life advice. It would be ridiculous to assume that what works for your first cousin or next-door neighbor works for you.

I’d be lying if I said that I don’t look at other people’s lives and wonder why mine is not going as well as theirs. It’s so easy to compare myself to my friends and even strangers, filling myself up with shame and contemplating whether my life is a pile of disappointments. I’m trying to get to a place where I’m so focused on living my life and moving forward that I don’t pay attention to others and how far they’ve come. I’m working on it, and I must say it’s been freeing and rewarding so far.

#thoughts #bedifferent #youdeservethebest #lifequotes #liferulestoliveby #inspirationalquotes #motivational_quotes #motivation

Credits: Positive Inspirational Quotes (Instagram) Featured Image.

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Opinions and Tolerance.

It is okay to have different opinions.

Sometimes a difference in #opinions leads to borderline #onlinebullying.

Calling someone a #worthless person or demeaning them just because you have a different opinion is rude. Don’t put someone down just because you disagree. The other person is allowed to have an opinion and so are you.
When you take the time to listen to someone’s opinion, you will be introduced to a completely different point of view. Even if you don’t agree at first, you will see things from a #differentperspective. This will eventually open your mind to new ideas.

Also, remember that your opinion is just an opinion. It is not a fact. You’re not always right or wrong. Your opinions are based on your experiences and your belief systems.
Last, if everyone had the same opinion, this world will be a boring place. Let’s engage in a thoughtful, respectable debate. Don’t hate on someone else and call it #freedomofspeech.

Dealing with distinctly different views and opinions while still keeping your cool is the mark of a good human being.

#tolerance
#stopbullying #debate #opinions

Am I Allowed to Have an Opinion?

Sometimes no matter what you choose, you’re wrong!

Here’s something interesting I came across online. We have seen debates and discussions getting ugly. In fact, there would be times when you’d question the human integrity and intelligence. So the question is – are we allowed to even have an opinion?

The following excerpt is part of the post “15 Truths about Opinions” originally contributed by Katie Hoffman and featured at @huffpost.

“Sharing your opinion” doesn’t translate to “putting someone in a headlock until he or she agrees with you.” Being passionate about your views is admirable, but you should never expect anyone to abandon his or her own thoughts in favour of yours.

Defending your beliefs doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re “weak,” it means that they’re important to you and that you care enough about discussing them that you want to clarify any misconceptions and help others understand them (regardless of whether those others ultimately agree with you).

The weakest arguments you could make against someone’s opinion are to say it doesn’t matter or that no one asked for it. All opinions matter.

#huffingtonpost #Katiehoffman #opinionsmatter #thoughts #tolerance #ideas #debates #discussions #socialmedia