Is Crying a Good Thing?

Crying is a healthy response to sadness and frustration.

When you cry, you’re meeting your emotions head-on. You are looking at them directly, allowing them to overwhelm you for a time, and then letting them go after your crying has run its course. Crying does not mean that you can’t handle your life—on the contrary, it indicates a deeper capability for handling life, because you’re not prone to counterproductive escapism.

Instead, you hold your ground and experience your true responses to life situations, regardless of whether they’re painful. And if holding your ground in this way does involve crying, you know that this is letting your body get rid of excess negative energy and making room for rejuvenating. This approach is nothing to feel ashamed of or to apologize for.

Credits: The Law of Attraction.

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I Know When To Draw The Line

It’s okay to live a life others don’t understand.

Society’s views are finally changing, little by little. The world has recently started to understand the true strength of women. Yet, so many of us feel powerless. Or we don’t get the power we deserve.

We (women) sometimes put ourselves through unnecessary suffering when we have unreasonable ‘personal’ expectations. Forget others, we constantly keep ourselves under a microscope.

Like many little girls, I was bombarded with a long list of expectations. For years I believed that girls have to be nice, they must be gracious. Oh, and can we help you with anything else?
All I heard was “boys will be boys and men will be men.” But girls? What about women?

Because I’m a woman, people expect me to always be accommodating. I am supposed to behave nicely, and always go out of my way to please others. More importantly, I always have to say yes even when I don’t want to because a woman is one who’s always fitting her schedule. No, our priorities and ambitions don’t matter.

The funny bit is that people don’t expect you to have a voice or complain about something. I can’t have limits and I can’t say when I’ve had enough. They don’t think you’re capable of setting boundaries. I must behave like a puppet and always nod and agree with everything this society says.

And the worst part, putting yourself first is a crime. You’ll be called selfish, mean and that’s just so out of a good woman’s character because she puts herself last. Even if I’m broken on the inside, I should smile from ear to ear. Yes, I’m not allowed to ever change that.

It’s like everyone can set boundaries except women. Why do we always have to forgive, forget and move on? Why can’t I call people out or cut toxic people from my life? Why should I always give someone a second chance when I am fully capable of standing up for myself?

It’s sad that our society expects women to always be the bigger person, the nicest person, the forgiving person, the person who’d gladly become a doormat. Unfortunately for some, that’s about to change soon.

Yes, there was a time when I desperately wanted to fit in with the wrong crowd, fulfill someone’s ridiculous expectations which resulted in me becoming something that was not me at all.

Now, I know my worth. More importantly, I know the best time to be nice and when it is the right time to draw the line.

Image credits: Positive Inspirational Quotes – Instagram.

This Is Why You Only Need To Live For Yourself And No One Else

In this day and age, where social media has taken over the world, it’s almost natural for most people to feel the need to conform. To follow the same path of life as your colleagues. To like the same things they do. To think the way everybody tells you to think.

I have fallen victim to this myself, I must admit. And I did it without even knowing. Subconsciously, I started adjusting my life to the norm, even though there’s no such thing.
I have sadly learned the hard way that if you don’t take a step back and live solely for yourself right now, then you might not get the chance to. I love to help people and make others happy but I have finally realized that I am in a season of life that should be solely about myself.

We all have a different set of values. We all want different things. We all look different. Therefore, there’s no way for us to follow the same life advice. It would be ridiculous to assume that what works for your first cousin or next-door neighbor works for you.

I’d be lying if I said that I don’t look at other people’s lives and wonder why mine is not going as well as theirs. It’s so easy to compare myself to my friends and even strangers, filling myself up with shame and contemplating whether my life is a pile of disappointments. I’m trying to get to a place where I’m so focused on living my life and moving forward that I don’t pay attention to others and how far they’ve come. I’m working on it, and I must say it’s been freeing and rewarding so far.

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Credits: Positive Inspirational Quotes (Instagram) Featured Image.

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Never Give Up

Successful people are those who never give up.

I see people all of the time become victims of life challenges. When life gets tough or depressing, they adopt a negative perspective and think to themselves about how unfair life is and how things should have happened differently.

Well, the truth of the matter is that life is going to happen – sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. The one true thing that you will always have 100% control over is your response to these events. When you adopt a positive attitude and always look for the good in any given circumstance – how could you not move forward?

Remember, you must never give up and success will be yours.

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Keeping Good Company

Surround yourself with good and positive vibes.

Certain people radiate positive energy and others negative energy. This energy is a combination of a person’s mindset, their dominant thoughts, and beliefs and can be easily felt. Positive people are loving, happy, compassionate, kind and supportive. Negative people are judgmental, always complaining and like to put others down. It’s not surprising to feel uncomfortable, unhappy and tense around them.

If you have a gut feeling about a person, follow it. That’s your body’s way to communicate with you, so pay attention to those warning signals. Always go with the gut feeling that feels GOOD. Similarly, listen deeply to the one that feels bad.

Of course, some people are simply awful to deal with. However, you can choose not to let their negativity influence you. Remember that you are influenced by the energy of others. But you have the power to set healthy limits and boundaries. No one can make you feel angry, sad, or worthless without your consent.

Don’t forget to set clear limits and boundaries with negative people and cut them off when they become overly critical or mean. Support your mental and physical health by nurturing positive thoughts and emotions. Focus on positive outcomes based on love and happiness. Whenever you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like, create an emotional barrier. The sooner you do this, the happier you will be.

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Don’t You Want an Ideal Body?

Here’s why body shaming must stop right now.

I clearly remember the first time I was “fat shamed.” The phrase – fat shaming wasn’t popular back then. A fellow student looked at me and said, “How much do her parents feed her?” There were other students as well and I saw everyone nodding in agreement. There was no remorse or compassion. No one asked her to stop being rude. Everyone just continued with their conversations and I sat in a corner – feeling low.

Two decades later I still think about that experience. And the interesting thing is that people haven’t changed much. They still believe something is wrong with me. Fat shaming sadly has become socially acceptable to the point where it is now intolerable. Most women and even men believe it won’t hurt if your body is made a talking point.

In this era where we are obsessed with being skinny or tiny, I’d like to say a few things. We all have days when we don’t feel good about ourselves and the last thing I want is to be attacked about my weight. I have always been big. “You must wear black often; it is a slimming color.” Well, people – there is more than one type of physique. Are women with curves not allowed to wear colors and embrace their bodies as well?

I’m happy about how Body positivity promotes the different kinds of body frames. But there’s a lot to be done. Another rude question we often encounter is “when was the last time you had a healthy meal?” Okay, I can guarantee that this question is not helpful or kind. In fact, it is offensive and why would someone ask that in the first place. It is just plain rude.

It’s hard to be happy when I am judged for my size. Of course, I want to be healthy, but it does not mean I want to be skinny! Maybe I want to be more toned or muscular.

Fat shaming has got to the point where new people would remember you for how you look. You’d find dozens of obnoxious memes on social media. It’s upsetting to see my physique being subjected to unsolicited advice and jokes. Even celebs aren’t immune to fat shaming – it effects them as well.

People also need to realize skinny shaming has the same negative emotional impact as fat shaming. You can’t get away with a little smirk if you thought skinny shaming is acceptable. Remember that you should be cautious about the way you speak about the other person’s appearance. Normal decency should apply to conversations. Don’t let someone down to make yourself feel better. These harsh words can break someone’s ‘body’ confidence – forever!