Tag: Emotional Support

What To Do If You Have a Bad Boss

Here’s how you can survive working for a bad boss.

Bad bosses are common in the average Pakistan workforce. Most professionals say their boss is the most stressful part of their job. We all know someone who left a job only to get away from their toxic boss.

Surprisingly, people stay in jobs with toxic bosses for a multitude of reasons.

1. I don’t have the energy to start job hunting again.

2. I love my coworkers.

3. I need money and this place pays me well.

4. I’ve invested precious time in this organization.

5. Things will be better soon.

These excuses are deeply linked to human psychology. Toxic workplaces rob workers of the energy needed to search for a new job or perform better. They find it hard to quit, and it’s impossible to identify a new opportunity when one lacks motivation. Additionally, people stay in toxic situations if they are emotionally attached to their job. Although staying put seems more lucrative, it comes with many risks.

Studies reveal that employees who work for toxic bosses are more susceptible to stress, depression, fatigue, and anxiety.

What You Can Do?

Bad bosses should always be taken seriously. If you can’t quit immediately, it’s a good idea to talk to your boss. A difficult boss may not be open to hearing you, but you can try making specific requests to get what you need.

Second, engage with a support network. Talk to like-minded co-workers to de-stress.

Last, take care of your health. Get plenty of exercise, and sleep.

Of course, you are in the best position to decide what’s best for you. If you dread going to work every day, or if you feel physically and emotionally drained, or your self-confidence is affected, it’s time to go. Line up your next move – your job search. Remember, it’s okay to quit to keep your sanity intact.

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Is Crying a Good Thing?

Crying is a healthy response to sadness and frustration.

When you cry, you’re meeting your emotions head-on. You are looking at them directly, allowing them to overwhelm you for a time, and then letting them go after your crying has run its course. Crying does not mean that you can’t handle your life—on the contrary, it indicates a deeper capability for handling life, because you’re not prone to counterproductive escapism.

Instead, you hold your ground and experience your true responses to life situations, regardless of whether they’re painful. And if holding your ground in this way does involve crying, you know that this is letting your body get rid of excess negative energy and making room for rejuvenating. This approach is nothing to feel ashamed of or to apologize for.

Credits: The Law of Attraction.

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Keeping Good Company

Surround yourself with good and positive vibes.

Certain people radiate positive energy and others negative energy. This energy is a combination of a person’s mindset, their dominant thoughts, and beliefs and can be easily felt. Positive people are loving, happy, compassionate, kind and supportive. Negative people are judgmental, always complaining and like to put others down. It’s not surprising to feel uncomfortable, unhappy and tense around them.

If you have a gut feeling about a person, follow it. That’s your body’s way to communicate with you, so pay attention to those warning signals. Always go with the gut feeling that feels GOOD. Similarly, listen deeply to the one that feels bad.

Of course, some people are simply awful to deal with. However, you can choose not to let their negativity influence you. Remember that you are influenced by the energy of others. But you have the power to set healthy limits and boundaries. No one can make you feel angry, sad, or worthless without your consent.

Don’t forget to set clear limits and boundaries with negative people and cut them off when they become overly critical or mean. Support your mental and physical health by nurturing positive thoughts and emotions. Focus on positive outcomes based on love and happiness. Whenever you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like, create an emotional barrier. The sooner you do this, the happier you will be.

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Don’t You Want an Ideal Body?

Here’s why body shaming must stop right now.

I clearly remember the first time I was “fat shamed.” The phrase – fat shaming wasn’t popular back then. A fellow student looked at me and said, “How much do her parents feed her?” There were other students as well and I saw everyone nodding in agreement. There was no remorse or compassion. No one asked her to stop being rude. Everyone just continued with their conversations and I sat in a corner – feeling low.

Two decades later I still think about that experience. And the interesting thing is that people haven’t changed much. They still believe something is wrong with me. Fat shaming sadly has become socially acceptable to the point where it is now intolerable. Most women and even men believe it won’t hurt if your body is made a talking point.

In this era where we are obsessed with being skinny or tiny, I’d like to say a few things. We all have days when we don’t feel good about ourselves and the last thing I want is to be attacked about my weight. I have always been big. “You must wear black often; it is a slimming color.” Well, people – there is more than one type of physique. Are women with curves not allowed to wear colors and embrace their bodies as well?

I’m happy about how Body positivity promotes the different kinds of body frames. But there’s a lot to be done. Another rude question we often encounter is “when was the last time you had a healthy meal?” Okay, I can guarantee that this question is not helpful or kind. In fact, it is offensive and why would someone ask that in the first place. It is just plain rude.

It’s hard to be happy when I am judged for my size. Of course, I want to be healthy, but it does not mean I want to be skinny! Maybe I want to be more toned or muscular.

Fat shaming has got to the point where new people would remember you for how you look. You’d find dozens of obnoxious memes on social media. It’s upsetting to see my physique being subjected to unsolicited advice and jokes. Even celebs aren’t immune to fat shaming – it effects them as well.

People also need to realize skinny shaming has the same negative emotional impact as fat shaming. You can’t get away with a little smirk if you thought skinny shaming is acceptable. Remember that you should be cautious about the way you speak about the other person’s appearance. Normal decency should apply to conversations. Don’t let someone down to make yourself feel better. These harsh words can break someone’s ‘body’ confidence – forever!

It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Embrace your emotions. They’re part of being human.

We all feel sad at times. There are occasions where we feel joyful, happy, angry, proud, motivated, excited and plenty of other emotions also come into action. Let’s be honest with ourselves. Every day is not perfect. In fact, some days are worse than others.

You can feel sad, lonely, isolated, lost or dejected. It might be because of someone you love, a friend, or a real-life incident. Sometimes it’s what we read or see online that influences our emotions.

It’s easy for others to criticize a person for failing to be positive and happy. This is one reason we tend to suppress our emotions. Some people would even make us feel guilty for being sad.

There’s one thing I’ve realised. The intense feeling of sadness is the perfect chance to re-evaluate our priorities and discover what is really important to us. Remember that if we think about our unexplained feelings, rather than suppressing or ignoring them, we would know the things that need our attention.

Once you identify what needs to be changed, you can take control of your thoughts. You can also be more emotionally resilient.

Remember…

1. Everyone feels sad sometimes
2. You can manage your sadness
3. Expressing your emotions and feelings doesn’t make you a weak person.

“You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a negative person. It makes you HUMAN.

Credits:

The Good Quote

Tiny Buddha

Learning-Mind.com

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