In this day and age, where social media has taken over the world, it’s almost natural for most people to feel the need to conform. To follow the same path of life as your colleagues. To like the same things they do. To think the way everybody tells you to think.
I have fallen victim to this myself, I must admit. And I did it without even knowing. Subconsciously, I started adjusting my life to the norm, even though there’s no such thing.
I have sadly learned the hard way that if you don’t take a step back and live solely for yourself right now, then you might not get the chance to. I love to help people and make others happy but I have finally realized that I am in a season of life that should be solely about myself.
We all have a different set of values. We all want different things. We all look different. Therefore, there’s no way for us to follow the same life advice. It would be ridiculous to assume that what works for your first cousin or next-door neighbor works for you.
I’d be lying if I said that I don’t look at other people’s lives and wonder why mine is not going as well as theirs. It’s so easy to compare myself to my friends and even strangers, filling myself up with shame and contemplating whether my life is a pile of disappointments. I’m trying to get to a place where I’m so focused on living my life and moving forward that I don’t pay attention to others and how far they’ve come. I’m working on it, and I must say it’s been freeing and rewarding so far.
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It is okay to have different opinions.
Sometimes a difference in #opinions leads to borderline #onlinebullying.
Calling someone a #worthless person or demeaning them just because you have a different opinion is rude. Don’t put someone down just because you disagree. The other person is allowed to have an opinion and so are you.
When you take the time to listen to someone’s opinion, you will be introduced to a completely different point of view. Even if you don’t agree at first, you will see things from a #differentperspective. This will eventually open your mind to new ideas.
Also, remember that your opinion is just an opinion. It is not a fact. You’re not always right or wrong. Your opinions are based on your experiences and your belief systems.
Last, if everyone had the same opinion, this world will be a boring place. Let’s engage in a thoughtful, respectable debate. Don’t hate on someone else and call it #freedomofspeech.
Dealing with distinctly different views and opinions while still keeping your cool is the mark of a good human being.
#stopbullying #debate #opinions
Sometimes no matter what you choose, you’re wrong!
Here’s something interesting I came across online. We have seen debates and discussions getting ugly. In fact, there would be times when you’d question the human integrity and intelligence. So the question is – are we allowed to even have an opinion?
The following excerpt is part of the post “15 Truths about Opinions” originally contributed by Katie Hoffman and featured at @huffpost.
“Sharing your opinion” doesn’t translate to “putting someone in a headlock until he or she agrees with you.” Being passionate about your views is admirable, but you should never expect anyone to abandon his or her own thoughts in favour of yours.
Defending your beliefs doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re “weak,” it means that they’re important to you and that you care enough about discussing them that you want to clarify any misconceptions and help others understand them (regardless of whether those others ultimately agree with you).
The weakest arguments you could make against someone’s opinion are to say it doesn’t matter or that no one asked for it. All opinions matter.
#huffingtonpost #Katiehoffman #opinionsmatter #thoughts #tolerance #ideas #debates #discussions #socialmedia
This is needed because bathroom horror can scar you for life.
There are few things worse than taking a visit to an office bathroom only to find stained yellow droplets on the toilet seat or … an unflushed toilet – smelly poop that could knock you over. Sometimes there’s no soap or running water. Perhaps the only thing worse than that is experiencing the same thing every other day! If you happen to take an emergency visit to the office bathroom and feel like you’ve entered a septic tank, well, you’re not alone.
What most ‘adults’ fail to understand is that their bathroom habits define what kind of a person they are. Apparently many professionals today have forgotten the basics. Yes, Bathroom Etiquette 101 is really a thing. Just because you have a deadline to meet, doesn’t mean you cannot leave the bathroom in the same condition as it was before you came in.
So people, here are some basic Bathroom Etiquette.
- The office bathroom is a communal area which means you will share it with other employees. So always be respectful and clean up your mess. Pick up your deodorants and other personal items after using them.
- If you spit on the sink, rinse down the remains. The last thing others want to see is your spit hardened into a glue-like substance.
- Pee pee left in the toilet stinks after a while so just flush! Period. And additionally, if it’s brown flush it down twice!
- If you pee on the toilet seat, wipe it up instead of just leaving it there for the next person. Simple, right?
- Don’t leave poop floating – yes, it is gross. Please use the flush after washing your arse. We don’t want to see your business.
- Have an upset stomach? You can always use air fresheners after you are done.
- Go inside the toilet, do your business and get out immediately. Playing Candy Crush or reading your favorite book for an hour sitting on the toilet seat while others wait is just rude.
- If you use the last bit of toilet paper, throw the empty carton in the trash and place a new roll. It doesn’t take long – trust me!
- Always close the door. It’s never a good idea to let people see your jewels.
- Ladies, wrap up your feminine hygiene products before throwing them in the trash can.
You would think that most of this stuff is a no-brainer. But many people forget this. Let’s follow this common etiquette not just in office washrooms, but at home as well.
Successful people are those who never give up.
I see people all of the time become victims of life challenges. When life gets tough or depressing, they adopt a negative perspective and think to themselves about how unfair life is and how things should have happened differently.
Well, the truth of the matter is that life is going to happen – sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. The one true thing that you will always have 100% control over is your response to these events. When you adopt a positive attitude and always look for the good in any given circumstance – how could you not move forward?
Remember, you must never give up and success will be yours.
#motivational_quotes #keepgoing #nevergiveup💪 #motivation #trustyourself #mindfulness #positiveaffirmations #positiveenergy
Surround yourself with good and positive vibes.
Certain people radiate positive energy and others negative energy. This energy is a combination of a person’s mindset, their dominant thoughts, and beliefs and can be easily felt. Positive people are loving, happy, compassionate, kind and supportive. Negative people are judgmental, always complaining and like to put others down. It’s not surprising to feel uncomfortable, unhappy and tense around them.
If you have a gut feeling about a person, follow it. That’s your body’s way to communicate with you, so pay attention to those warning signals. Always go with the gut feeling that feels GOOD. Similarly, listen deeply to the one that feels bad.
Of course, some people are simply awful to deal with. However, you can choose not to let their negativity influence you. Remember that you are influenced by the energy of others. But you have the power to set healthy limits and boundaries. No one can make you feel angry, sad, or worthless without your consent.
Don’t forget to set clear limits and boundaries with negative people and cut them off when they become overly critical or mean. Support your mental and physical health by nurturing positive thoughts and emotions. Focus on positive outcomes based on love and happiness. Whenever you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like, create an emotional barrier. The sooner you do this, the happier you will be.
#positiveenergy #positivity #positivevibes #motivational_quotes #thegoodqoute #setclearboundaries #mentalhealth #selflove #selfcare #negativitynotneeded
Here’s why body shaming must stop right now.
I clearly remember the first time I was “fat shamed.” The phrase – fat shaming wasn’t popular back then. A fellow student looked at me and said, “How much do her parents feed her?” There were other students as well and I saw everyone nodding in agreement. There was no remorse or compassion. No one asked her to stop being rude. Everyone just continued with their conversations and I sat in a corner – feeling low.
Two decades later I still think about that experience. And the interesting thing is that people haven’t changed much. They still believe something is wrong with me. Fat shaming sadly has become socially acceptable to the point where it is now intolerable. Most women and even men believe it won’t hurt if your body is made a talking point.
In this era where we are obsessed with being skinny or tiny, I’d like to say a few things. We all have days when we don’t feel good about ourselves and the last thing I want is to be attacked about my weight. I have always been big. “You must wear black often; it is a slimming color.” Well, people – there is more than one type of physique. Are women with curves not allowed to wear colors and embrace their bodies as well?
I’m happy about how Body positivity promotes the different kinds of body frames. But there’s a lot to be done. Another rude question we often encounter is “when was the last time you had a healthy meal?” Okay, I can guarantee that this question is not helpful or kind. In fact, it is offensive and why would someone ask that in the first place. It is just plain rude.
It’s hard to be happy when I am judged for my size. Of course, I want to be healthy, but it does not mean I want to be skinny! Maybe I want to be more toned or muscular.
Fat shaming has got to the point where new people would remember you for how you look. You’d find dozens of obnoxious memes on social media. It’s upsetting to see my physique being subjected to unsolicited advice and jokes. Even celebs aren’t immune to fat shaming – it effects them as well.
People also need to realize skinny shaming has the same negative emotional impact as fat shaming. You can’t get away with a little smirk if you thought skinny shaming is acceptable. Remember that you should be cautious about the way you speak about the other person’s appearance. Normal decency should apply to conversations. Don’t let someone down to make yourself feel better. These harsh words can break someone’s ‘body’ confidence – forever!