Author: Thinking Thirty

A firm believer in positive thinking | Breaking the stigma against single women | Giving up & giving in isn’t an option | It’s never too late to make a change

What To Do If You Have a Bad Boss

Here’s how you can survive working for a bad boss.

Bad bosses are common in the average Pakistan workforce. Most professionals say their boss is the most stressful part of their job. We all know someone who left a job only to get away from their toxic boss.

Surprisingly, people stay in jobs with toxic bosses for a multitude of reasons.

1. I don’t have the energy to start job hunting again.

2. I love my coworkers.

3. I need money and this place pays me well.

4. I’ve invested precious time in this organization.

5. Things will be better soon.

These excuses are deeply linked to human psychology. Toxic workplaces rob workers of the energy needed to search for a new job or perform better. They find it hard to quit, and it’s impossible to identify a new opportunity when one lacks motivation. Additionally, people stay in toxic situations if they are emotionally attached to their job. Although staying put seems more lucrative, it comes with many risks.

Studies reveal that employees who work for toxic bosses are more susceptible to stress, depression, fatigue, and anxiety.

What You Can Do?

Bad bosses should always be taken seriously. If you can’t quit immediately, it’s a good idea to talk to your boss. A difficult boss may not be open to hearing you, but you can try making specific requests to get what you need.

Second, engage with a support network. Talk to like-minded co-workers to de-stress.

Last, take care of your health. Get plenty of exercise, and sleep.

Of course, you are in the best position to decide what’s best for you. If you dread going to work every day, or if you feel physically and emotionally drained, or your self-confidence is affected, it’s time to go. Line up your next move – your job search. Remember, it’s okay to quit to keep your sanity intact.

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Stop Chasing Perfection – You Will Get Nowhere

Make Life Easier on Yourself by Accepting Good Enough.

I am my own harshest critic. I must be in control of every aspect of my life. At work, I have to be the best employee. As far as looks are concerned, I must have the ideal figure – a narrow waist, flat belly, and absolutely no ‘jiggly’ parts. In terms of style, everything has to be branded down to my socks. These all sound like too good to be true, right? Well, that’s because they are. In fact, some of them are nearly impossible to accomplish.

It took a lot of thinking for me to fully accept that chasing perfection isn’t a good idea. It’s true that no one can be perfect in every aspect of his or her life. My teenage years weren’t the best mainly because I was secretly obsessed with being perfect. I spent a lot of time looking in the mirror staring at every single flaw I had. In my mind, I was a fat and dark ‘worthless’ human who can never be good enough.

The Twenties were no different.  Every day, I hated what I saw in the mirror. I never wanted to interact with people and there was always an excuse: I’m too busy working! Mean comments about my skin tone and weight lead me into a spiral of negative thoughts. These negative words were constantly on a loop in my head driving me crazy.

Perfectly imperfect at 33!

Things started changing the day I turned 30. I realized spending time with loved ones is so much more beneficial than dwelling over negative, mean comments that are worthless. There’s much more to life than obsessing over relationships, the number on the weight scale or the shade of your foundation. I decided to enjoy time with my family and friends. Well, there’s no gap between my thighs and I still have belly rolls. My butts jiggle when I walk or run. I know I’m not perfect,and that is okay.

So what really matters?

Forget the weighing scale and the reflection you see in the mirror. Don’t beat yourself up for not having the ideal body proportions or skin tone. Accept who you are. Do whatever makes you happy. Nobody is perfect and that is just how it is. Love yourself because you are worth it.

Is Crying a Good Thing?

Crying is a healthy response to sadness and frustration.

When you cry, you’re meeting your emotions head-on. You are looking at them directly, allowing them to overwhelm you for a time, and then letting them go after your crying has run its course. Crying does not mean that you can’t handle your life—on the contrary, it indicates a deeper capability for handling life, because you’re not prone to counterproductive escapism.

Instead, you hold your ground and experience your true responses to life situations, regardless of whether they’re painful. And if holding your ground in this way does involve crying, you know that this is letting your body get rid of excess negative energy and making room for rejuvenating. This approach is nothing to feel ashamed of or to apologize for.

Credits: The Law of Attraction.

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